In my sensual yoga teacher training, we were asked to reflect on a simple yet powerful question:
What is the difference between sensuality and sexuality, for you?
It wasn’t about getting it “right.” It was about getting personal.
And this is what came through for me.
What is Sensuality?
To me, sensuality is anything that involves the senses; sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. It’s not inherently sexual. It’s presence. It’s attention. It’s tuning in and noticing what you’re feeling in the moment.
I remember sharing that eating a box of Lemonheads is a deeply sensual experience for me. I love the loud, vibrant burst of lemon. I love the tickle it gives me in the back of my throat. And I love the nostalgia of it. The memory of walking to the corner store as a kid, the joy of picking out my favorite treat.
That’s sensuality.
You have to be in your body to access it. You have to slow down enough to notice:
What do I see? What do I hear? What do I taste? What do I feel?
That is sensuality.
What is Sexuality?
Sexuality, for me, is about the act of sex or anything that intentionally stimulates our sexual organs. It can be gentle and soft. It can be wild and raw. But it’s about the sexual part of our being.
And while sensuality and sexuality can absolutely overlap, they are not the same. I think sensuality can be a beautiful addition to sexuality, but they are different.
We’ve all had sex that wasn’t sensual.
Maybe we were in our heads, thinking about the grocery list or what to cook for dinner.
Maybe it was a quickie with no foreplay, no touch, no real presence. Yes, it’s fun, but it’s more animal than intimate. And it’s more about release than connection.
Sex without sensuality is just that, sex.
Sensuality is what brings us into the experience. It’s what lets us feel.
Sensuality Vs Sexuality in My Movement Practice
When I practice sensual yoga or sensual dance, I love to bring in a little spice, a subtle sexiness that makes me feel good.
Not because I’m trying to arouse myself or someone else, but because it’s a flavor of aliveness that feels really nourishing.
Maybe it’s the way I move my hips.
Maybe it’s the way I put lipstick or let my fingertips graze my own skin.
Maybe it’s how I let the music guide my breath and body.
It doesn’t mean I want to have sex or masturbate afterward.
It just means I feel delicious in my body. I feel powerful.
Returning to Your Feminine Through Sensuality
That feeling of empowerment and sexy aliveness becomes a bridge, especially after a day in the masculine “get things done” mode.
It’s one way I come back home to my feminine.This helps me soften.
And remember my true nature.
Your sensuality is yours. Sacred, subtle, slow. It is a doorway to presence, to pleasure and to the deeper parts of your feminine nature.
If you’re ready to explore your own sensual self, start with this sensual breathwork video.
Also, stay tuned. More is on the way.
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